After a disastrous time, we end up having a broken heart and depressed mind that associates a break-up. A guide to let you know if you are repeating the same 5 mistakes that ruined everyone.
The introduction
Being in a
relationship is like a festival celebrated by the youth but when it backfires,
life ends up in a cloud of depression and the last thing you want is to make
the mistakes that everyone does. Although it is difficult when applied but with
a little determination and lot of self-control, chances are that you might just
pass the horizon of self-destruction with no harm done. With that being said,
here is a list that I have ready after the observation that lists the top 5
most common mistakes that happen in a relationship and are avoided at any cost.
Avoidance
Avoiding some is not a solution and if you plan on doing
something stupid in a relationship then starting with avoidance is the
best-known example. While you do something productive, your other half may
think that you are up to no good. If there is a problem, speak up! Waiting for
the right time may end the entire scene of passion before you know it.
Meaningless fights.
You take pleasure when your sister's boyfriend say that you are
hot, why it is an offense to you the other way around? A compliment is a
compliment and if you don't like him to say something like that, object but why
argue? Same goes for the boys as well. If you want a 'boys night out', make her
understand in a way that she understands and not making a big fuss about it.
And even if you want to go, why not take her with you once a month at least so
that even she knows whom you are hanging out with? All it takes is an approach.
You might be able to solve the most common of unresolved issues with a little
patience. Believe me, it's worth giving a try.
Guy best friend.
A complete and undeniable mistake that girls make (mostly in
long-distance relationships) is having a guy best friend. I don't understand
whether they are naïve or playing that way but sharing every single thing with
someone is something that your boyfriend won't consider as a relationship
booster. Everyone needs a friend but to use that friend as boyfriend's
substitution to fill the void is something that is completely wrong. Boys are
territorial by nature and if someone tries to trespass their privacy, it is
obvious that he might end up destroying either the relationship or the one
trespassing. So, girls, that is completely upon you to avoid.
Hiding and secrecy
The biggest problem mostly in girls as I have observed is hiding
stuff. Why maintain secrecy when you want to live together forever? Creating
suspicion and making things worse is something that will make the relation go
bad and with the time passing, it will only make you go away from the one you
were ready to sacrifice everything. Ask yourself this, is the one you are
hiding really worth it? If yes, then end the relation this instance. You are
suffering from an act of infatuation and not love.
Cheating
With lying starts cheating and no matter how hard you think you
can avoid it, the fact is, you can't. With every day passing, the need for you
with your love decreases and the one whom you are not going to stay at all
becomes the one who is important. Like it or not, the reason that you cheat is
the same reason that you feel he is better than anyone in comparison. And I
don't know about girls but if your boyfriend truly loves you, there is a chance
that he will forgive you even after you have been at a level of intimacy with
that guy. That's love, not lust.
The sum up of all the facts.
There is no revenge in a relationship. If you are wrong, admit
it. If your other half is wrong, try to make him understand what the fault is
and not repeating the same mistake just because you can. Compromise and
sacrifice are necessary but if you prefer ego and attitude as your first
priority, you are welcome to sabotage something that only a few are lucky
enough to receive.
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